Hello Bossip! I promise I’m going to keep this short and to the point. My husband and I just celebrated out second year of marriage and I’m so proud to be his wife and to say that he is my husband. I have been blessed with such a wonderful man and father and I couldn’t have picture a better partner for my life. We have our issues but our communication is solid enough to work through the kinks. What I’m really trying to say is that I love him and our life together. The problem that I’m having is in the bedroom. We make love all the time and we share an intimacy that I’ve never had before but everything is so gentle and slow moving in a sense. I’m a little wild and he’s more laid back which I don’t have a problem with but I want to be manhandled every once in a while. I think every woman wants her man to just take it and have his way her. I don’t see anything wrong with talking dirty and showing a little aggression! I won’t break and he can be a little rough with me! I don’t know if talking about this will offend him and I’d really prefer to just show him or drop enough hints so he gets the picture. Do you have any suggestions on how I do this? I’m at a loss and any advice would be nice! Thank you!
Happy Saturday to you, sis! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story! First, congratulations on finding your life partner! In this day and age marriage has, seemingly, lost its value placement in our society but when it’s done right with the right person and for the right reasons, it’s a beautiful thing! Deserving of recognition! So the issue you’re having is in the bedroom because you feel like he’s not flexing his man power and giving you a good boss toss, huh? Well, sis, in the grand scheme of things, this problem can be overcome so easily with solid communication. Granted, bedroom dilemmas aren’t the most comfortable in terms of addressing concerns but with time, you’ll learn how to talk about this area of your marriage without hesitation. You have forever to master your conversation style as a couple!
Now, you want him to be a little more aggressive and take charge in a way that it’s overpowering, consuming and arousing from what you’ve written and the fact of the matter is this – not every man possesses the inclination or instinct to be primal. So you might have to break down to specifics what you want him to do. Have no doubt that he won’t take heed to your requests – as no man wants to feel like he hasn’t been performing and meeting all your needs sexual desires. So, take comfort in the probability that you won’t have to have this conversation more than once!
Speaking about it is the most obvious and direct way to nip this in the bud, however, you’d like to physically show him what you want which can be done! For starters, you can take the bull by the horns and say all the dirty things you’d like for him to say to you the next time you heat things up! Tease him a little bit … men love to be teased. Give him just a little something and take it back – it may arouse a sense of ownership within him and you might just get everything you ask for and more! Please take a look at some of the previous articles we dug out of the archives that might give you some ideas!
Sextra: 10 Things to Do With a Naked Man
Sextra: Ladies, Think: Simple!
Sextra: What Do Men Like to Hear in Bed
There’s plenty more where these three article came from so dig through them and take away from them whatever you think would be helpful!
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